Viral content creator Happy Place has released The Most Comprehensively Honest Wedding RSVP in the History of Marriage and apparently no joke is complete without a little dig at the food allergy community. It’s a wedding RSVP card that covers “every horrible wedding guest that could possibly be invited.”
Click here to see the entire card, but be ye warned that the language is NSFW.
As you scroll past quips like “will say I plan to attend, then I won’t show without any explanation, even though you already had to pay for me in the advance headcount,” you finally get to the Meals section. Here’s a section of it:
Listen, undoubtedly someone’s going to tell me to “lighten up” and that it’s “just a joke.” Got that. The humor is not lost on me. But where is the a line of demarcation drawn when poking fun at people with a disability (and rest assured, severe food allergies are now considered a disability by the ADA)? No digs at people in wheelchairs (ugh, we have to make sure there’s a ramp available, #killmenow) or at people with seizure disorders (guess we’re getting rid of the strobe light for alllll the special snowflakes).
If that sentence seems heavy-handed, it’s because it IS. Because making obnoxious comments about people who don’t have a choice about how their bodies act or react is wrong.
As an aside, I’m in a wedding this weekend, and all three of my children (two of them with extensive food allergies) are flower girls in the wedding as well. We don’t expect people to accommodate their allergies — in fact, last year, we even packed dinner in lunch boxes for one wedding — but we definitely appreciate it when they do.
We packed lunch boxes for this particular wedding, but they handed out bubbles, and nothing’s better than bubbles at the end of a ceremony.
The bride called the caterer and said there were two children with food allergies attending the wedding, could they ‘just have some chicken breast with steamed broccoli or french fries, no dairy on it, please?’ along with the list of their allergies. I don’t expect that kind of consideration, but I certainly appreciate it.
And I’m not harboring any anger towards the folks at Happy Place (there’s a pun in there somewhere). Their intention was to create a funny piece of viral content. I still think that this epidemic of food allergies feels relatively new to society, and the hope is that we can all learn as we go.
But for real, if you guys need a knock-knock joke or two, tweet me. I’m your girl.